Letters to my Grandson Damian Nichter. I just found out that his dad has taken him and is keeping him away from us. But I am not going to let that stop me from reaching out to him , And these letters are for him so he will know we love him and miss him greatly very much.
Tuesday, February 28, 2017
Little Man
Hey little man ,
Your mom called me yesterday and she was so upset. Apparently she has been working while staying with some friends and was waiting on her tax return so she could move out and your father has done something to involve child support , while that is all fine and good with the exception that no one will tell her or me where you are . (the good thing about that is now she can find out information on him and you ) As a grandparent in this state I have no legal rights to information on you through the system . I am sure she does not mind paying child support it is the fact they she still does not know where you are or have the ability to see you because of your dad Joe and your Grandma R continue hiding you away from her . Which is rather juvenile . Every time your mom comes to visit me we look for you and like vapor they vanish yet again in thin air .I hope they are taking care of you .Giving you all that you need and want . I know your grandmother was working at the Dollar General in Asheboro and your Aunt K was working at the Waffle house in Randleman I don't know if they still do .I can not go into those places because of the hostility they give me when I did go in those places . I find them by sheer luck but neither would give me information to your father . I asked your grandma when I would be able to see you and all she said was " Joe will not have it !'' Like seriously what did I do to him ? He lived in my homes and I did all I could for him and your mom while they were still together , and I am the bad person here ? I don't think so . Fear has your dad hiding you from us , I think it is because he knows that he will have to co-parent with your mom . She has rights but without knowing where you are , how can she get those rights ? It is going on 6 years now since any of us have seen you or known where you are or the people that I hope are taking care of you . Giving you all the love and happiness you deserve .They hide you away from us like you are a piece of property . A pawn in some sort of sick game in which he gets to make the rules up as he goes along . In the meantime he is hurting your mother and you in the process . I hope without the knowledge of the pain he is causing to my daughter and inadvertently you as well . I mean to say if he is causing her pain on purpose he is more twisted than I though .You should not be keep away from your mom ( or us )she continues searching for you and she gets knocked down time after time after time but she still searches for you . She like many of us as humans has made mistakes , some questionable choices . ( Only questionable to others not to her , she has been hurt by your father and he continues to hurt her even now by keeping you hidden away from her )Your dad plays his games dirty with her he does not fight fair . He should not be keeping you away from her like he is and has. She is not the bad person here he is . Parents together or apart should get along for the child's sake (I believe any way ) Your father loved her once as she loved him and he continues to wreck her and my heart breaks for that pain he is continuously causing her .It seems like any moment of happiness she has a chance to grab , somehow your father manages alone or with the help of others to try to that happiness . His ego is crushed because she was trying to find her own for the two of you and when she got her life together she brought you to him for a visit and he disappears with you without a trace . My daughter is left heartbroken and stressed at her wit's end in loss of not knowing where you are or bringing able to see you , to hold you in her arms . That is a pain no parent should have to go through . That is a pain no person should have to go through . It breaks my heart to know that her heart breaks from the absence of you in her life . It is not right that she is being hurt over and over by your dad .He should try to repair the damage he is doing to her for the love of you in his heart .If for no other reason then to create a wholeness in you . To make you a happy with having your mom in your life . So has been through enough pain . She needs you . You are her life , and she is broken with out her little boy . I just dont understand how your daddy can not see that . Time has pasted and it is time to forgive and find away to move forward together .
I could not sleep and had to write to you . We love you so much Damian
we miss you deeply and I know one day you will be reunited with us.
May the light of day bring new perspective ......
Love you Always and Forever ,
Your Meme ,
Billie Jo
Friday, December 30, 2016
Happy Holidays little man .
I hope the holidays have been good to you and I hope Santa found you since we can not . What am I talking about , Of course Santa find you . Even thou we do not know where you are Santa always knows where all the good children are . I know that Santa paid a visit here for you too . Santa comes by here every year and leave you presents . I hope that someday I will be able to give them to you .
Here is a picture of our tree this year .
Here is a picture of our tree this year .
Pepper wants to say hello .
Friday, August 26, 2016
Breakfast surprise..
My dearest boy ,
Your paw paw John and I woke up early this morning and we decided to go eat breakfast , the place we usually go to changed it hours so we decided to go to the a waffle place instead . We pull into the parking lot and I look through the window and I see your Aunt Kay Kay . And a smile comes across my face , but as soon as we walk through the door she turns and starts shaking her head NO, NO, NO, as she walks back into the the cubby I hear her stating " I not waiting on her . I am not waiting on her . She is my brothers mother in law ." I smile and another waitress comes out and takes our order . I don't know why I have this effect on your fathers side of the family . I have done no wrong to them . but , however they tend to flee from me . We ate our breakfast and I noticed she was working the register and she could not avoid me there . I smile. When it is my turn I step up and say " Good morning Kay Kay . " she then replies " Mmm" . So I repeat myself . " Good morning Kay Kay''she repeats her " Mmm" . I then reply with a " Now your not going to be rude are you ?''
she say " What?'' I repeat " Now your not going to be rude are you . I said Good morning Kay Kay."
She says"I heard my name so I said Mmm." I then ask her how she was . She tells me "fine" I say well that is nice ". I then ask her how YOU are and she replies with a "good'' . I say " that is good ". I then tell her to have a pleasant day , turn and walk away . the whole time I am going through this back and forth with her she has a waitress standing by her . which was great for me because if we ever have to go to court I have a witness to the event that took place .
While we are sitting in the restaurant I text your mom and tell her where I am and who works there . I keep her informed on such thing because every time she come to look for you they all disappear .
Your mother reply to the via text " So they def all moved back to town . After I looked everywhere !!!"
I don't know why they are keeping you from her that is what I hate about this whole thing . Every time she comes to look for you or reaches out to find you, she is told lies and they vanish into thin air .I don't understand why if they love you would they want to keep you from your mother . That is no kind of love using a life to hurt a life . You are innocent in this and yet you are using you to hurt her . I only hope that they treat you better than they do us . We love you Damian and one day you will know the truth . I only hope this matter is repaired while you are still young enough to get over it . The longer it goes on the more it will hurt . I know from experience , as does your mother . I was kept from her as she is being kept from you . We Love you D ,
Always your Meme.
Your paw paw John and I woke up early this morning and we decided to go eat breakfast , the place we usually go to changed it hours so we decided to go to the a waffle place instead . We pull into the parking lot and I look through the window and I see your Aunt Kay Kay . And a smile comes across my face , but as soon as we walk through the door she turns and starts shaking her head NO, NO, NO, as she walks back into the the cubby I hear her stating " I not waiting on her . I am not waiting on her . She is my brothers mother in law ." I smile and another waitress comes out and takes our order . I don't know why I have this effect on your fathers side of the family . I have done no wrong to them . but , however they tend to flee from me . We ate our breakfast and I noticed she was working the register and she could not avoid me there . I smile. When it is my turn I step up and say " Good morning Kay Kay . " she then replies " Mmm" . So I repeat myself . " Good morning Kay Kay''she repeats her " Mmm" . I then reply with a " Now your not going to be rude are you ?''
she say " What?'' I repeat " Now your not going to be rude are you . I said Good morning Kay Kay."
She says"I heard my name so I said Mmm." I then ask her how she was . She tells me "fine" I say well that is nice ". I then ask her how YOU are and she replies with a "good'' . I say " that is good ". I then tell her to have a pleasant day , turn and walk away . the whole time I am going through this back and forth with her she has a waitress standing by her . which was great for me because if we ever have to go to court I have a witness to the event that took place .
While we are sitting in the restaurant I text your mom and tell her where I am and who works there . I keep her informed on such thing because every time she come to look for you they all disappear .
Your mother reply to the via text " So they def all moved back to town . After I looked everywhere !!!"
I don't know why they are keeping you from her that is what I hate about this whole thing . Every time she comes to look for you or reaches out to find you, she is told lies and they vanish into thin air .I don't understand why if they love you would they want to keep you from your mother . That is no kind of love using a life to hurt a life . You are innocent in this and yet you are using you to hurt her . I only hope that they treat you better than they do us . We love you Damian and one day you will know the truth . I only hope this matter is repaired while you are still young enough to get over it . The longer it goes on the more it will hurt . I know from experience , as does your mother . I was kept from her as she is being kept from you . We Love you D ,
Always your Meme.
Wednesday, August 24, 2016
Thursday, July 28, 2016
Always on my mind
Hey little man ,
Well , perhaps not so little . I mean you are still a little boy no in this point and time but, who know when and if you ever find and read these you may be grown up by then . I miss you . We miss you and every time I drive by the Dollar General where your grandmother Regina works it feels like you were taken away from us all over again . She said " Joe wont have it !." He wont let me see you . I know you are close and they wont let us see you . I mean what harm is going to befall you if you are around us ? They took you crying from me and that was one of the worse things that has happened to me in my life ,and let me tell you it has been no picnic . I could not possibly imagine what they tell you about your mother or us . I do know that it is more then likely it is all a bunch of trash . Fear makes people act in strange ways .
I am here for you Damian . We all are whether they want us too be or not .
I put the pictures up of us so you know who we are .And if we should not see each other again you will always know that we love you even if we can not be with you . You are a ghost that haunts our minds . Our memories of you laughing as we watched " Up" a hundred times and played tickles . We have your pictures on our refrigerator , your toys are in the toy room and I keep your rubber duckies right where they were used last in the bathroom beside on the tub and it has been almost 5 years now since you were here last . My dream is one day I will wake up from this nightmare and we will be together again . One big happy family . Us , them and most importantly you . We wish you all the best things in life ,and I hope you are healthy and happy and hope you never feel lonely because we are here even if you can not see us .
You are always on our minds,
Well , perhaps not so little . I mean you are still a little boy no in this point and time but, who know when and if you ever find and read these you may be grown up by then . I miss you . We miss you and every time I drive by the Dollar General where your grandmother Regina works it feels like you were taken away from us all over again . She said " Joe wont have it !." He wont let me see you . I know you are close and they wont let us see you . I mean what harm is going to befall you if you are around us ? They took you crying from me and that was one of the worse things that has happened to me in my life ,and let me tell you it has been no picnic . I could not possibly imagine what they tell you about your mother or us . I do know that it is more then likely it is all a bunch of trash . Fear makes people act in strange ways .
I am here for you Damian . We all are whether they want us too be or not .I put the pictures up of us so you know who we are .And if we should not see each other again you will always know that we love you even if we can not be with you . You are a ghost that haunts our minds . Our memories of you laughing as we watched " Up" a hundred times and played tickles . We have your pictures on our refrigerator , your toys are in the toy room and I keep your rubber duckies right where they were used last in the bathroom beside on the tub and it has been almost 5 years now since you were here last . My dream is one day I will wake up from this nightmare and we will be together again . One big happy family . Us , them and most importantly you . We wish you all the best things in life ,and I hope you are healthy and happy and hope you never feel lonely because we are here even if you can not see us .
You are always on our minds,
Forever and Always ,
Love Meme
( Billie Jo )
Sunday, May 1, 2016
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